Emotional mastery and the secrets of self control

Hello my darlings!

I’ve had a few of you reaching out asking to speak a little more on how to control our emotions, so I’ve decided to start working on a project focusing on emotional optimization - I’ll keep you updated on this process 😄 

But in the meantime, here are some important things to keep you going and thinking.

1. Believe you are the master of your own emotions and thoughts.

No one can actually tell you what to think or feel, but they can influence you. And it’s all up to us and our inner beliefs who we end up letting influence or inspire us and who we let control us.

Yes, I said it: who do YOU let control you?

No one has real authority over us except ourselves - and God, but he offered us free will so that we can choose what WE WANT.

With this belief of being the master of your own thoughts and emotions, you get to create how you want to show up in the world.

2. Learn to be your own leader.

In order to master emotions you also need to learn how to lead yourself.

If you are someone who is stuck in people-pleasing, focusing on the lack in your life instead of the blessings, or constantly believing that there is nothing within your power to do concerning your own life, then a lesson in personal leadership and authority would be great to learn.

What do I mean about this?

When we become our own leader we get to call the shots. We get to make decisions based on what is truly important and priority for us and our environment without sacrificing our well-being.

But, sometimes it’s easier said than done. However, it is not complicated, but quite simple to become your own leader.

It all sums up to boundaries, emotional optimization and mastering your personal authority.

3. Honor your identity.

When it comes to identity we tend to be taught constantly to look for the next trend, the new wellness hack, the new fashion vibe, the ultimate quick fix that will make us look/feel/act better.

But honestly, trends come and go. And they’re not consistent.

I’ve always believed that wellness is unique to everyone just as we all are unique and different in our own ways.

So it doesn’t matter what X or Y say works for them, if you don’t find results in it, you shouldn’t continue.

Here’s my favorite example to give for this one:

Cold plunges. They are all the rave right now. Everyone and their mother is jumping in a frozen lake, building ice baths, ordering online mini pools to fill with ice water, doing cryotherapy every weekend.

I hate the cold.

My body is not formed to deal well with the cold.

I lack enough fat cells to make me feel like the cold can do any miraculous work on my body so much so that it causes my adrenals and hormones to spike and go off balance for days after I experience any kind of prolonged cold experiment.

But heat on the other hand? I am a lizard in the sun.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t have people around me that urge me to give cold plunges another try. Or that don’t try to sell me on this powerful bio hack.

I just don’t listen to them because I’ve learned what works for me and what doesn’t. And honour my own identity enough to set up the boundaries around things that don’t align with me.

How did I get here?

Simple.

I tried things that were interesting and saw what resonated with me. And I said no to anything else that didn’t - even if some of them I didn’t even try.

Learning what you like and what you don’t is one of the biggest gifts you can offer yourself. And will lead you to all the self mastery you need and deserve to live a fulfilling and abundant life.

There are many ways to become the master of yourself and there are courses and masterclasses out there abundantly for whatever you would like to start off with.

And if you need more support, you know where to find me, I’m just an email away from answering your questions.

As you dive deeper into your emotional mastery, know that your process will be unique to you and it will be rewarding and freeing once you get the hang of it.

Until next time, be blessed and stay salty and bright!

Ana